Whether you agree with me or not about Patriarchy, it is the design of The Most High confirmed and ratified by natural law, which is to say it is apparent by the light of nature. This truth may be uncomfortable for some and their belief systems, you may not like me much as I write about these things, but The Most High didn’t ask me to share my opinion, he ordered me to represent his. He didn’t ask how I feel about these things or whether I like them or not, he instructed me to share his truth with the world, so this is what I will share.
There is no escaping patriarchy. It is by design and nature always reverts to the design of The Most High, in it’s purest form, mankind will naturally revert to his design. Whether corrupted and perverted, or in pursuit of his precepts, we always revert to his design. The following two stories illustrate this point. We as men bear the responsibility of covering, not only our women, but those whom The Most High sends to us who may not be in a one flesh covenant or marriage relationship with us. The responsibility is still there.
Solomon wrote in Proverbs 29:12 “If a ruler harkens to lies, all his servants are wicked.” This is because the sovereign is a covering to his servants just as you the man and master of your home are a covering to those whom The Most High places in your charge. If you are evil, those under you will struggle to do right and they will suffer the consequences of your crookedness as the following will illustrate.
Working in a small town as I do, I’m able to take my woman with me on ride-alongs from time to
time. I’m not deputizing her, or asking her to wear that which “pertaineth to a man” so don’t get all worried about that. She just get’s to come out and see what I do. It really helps her understand my job and the stresses I face as a peace officer, but that’s not really the purpose of this writing to get into, the point is she was on a ride with me when I made a significant drug bust.
The occupants of the vehicle were a couple, husband and wife. The man, who was driving ended up going to jail that night for possession with intent to distribute. He was clearly dealing and I had caught him on the way to his delivery with a significant weight and some of the cash proceeds of his activities. That evening, I only arrested the man. I suspected his woman’s involvement in his criminal activity, but it wasn’t until I was watching the video and writing my report that I realized just how involved she was.
This woman had intentionally used their dog to distract me from the drugs in the car, she impeded my investigation using a “friendly” K9 to be sure I didn’t get anywhere near the drugs, and she did it all acting on her man’s orders. This was plainly evident to me, a patriarchal man, in the moment when I asked her if there was a leash in the vehicle for the dog. Talking over me as she attempted to answer the question, her man looked directly at her and said “no”, before proceeding to tell me there was no leash. She stumbled through an explanative “no” as she told me if it wasn’t in the side door of the car, there was no leash.
During my search of the vehicle, I discovered the reason neither of them could find a leash for the dog was because it was under the weed in the center console of their vehicle. The way this woman followed and submitted to her husband is worthy of emulation by Christian women who profess that they follow their husbands. While her husband was completely in the wrong, his poor covering led to felony charges against her and potentially the loss of her career, business and now having a criminal record. She followed her covering, he covered her as best he could.
Sadly for both of them they were due a holy spanking and it’s one that’s really gonna hurt. I hope both of them will make different choices going forward, but those who profess to be submissive, biblical women can learn from this woman’s example.
The second is a woman I interacted with several times over a two month period. I told her story in full in my article “a spanking would have fixed it”, but here without getting into too many of the details, I want to highlight a couple points.
This woman was driving an unregistered vehicle, on a suspended license, without vehicle insurance. She wasn’t particularly concerned about any of these violations the day I stopped her for speeding and issued her multiple tickets. She could have gone to jail, but the soft heart in me decided to let her off with just the tickets and a stern talking to.
A month later I stopped her again. Same violations except for the speeding, she still hadn’t tracked down her driving permit (required since her license was suspended), didn’t have insurance and hadn’t fixed the registration on the car. Three more tickets and another stern lecture, this time accompanied by the promise that if I saw her driving again she would go to jail in front of her children if they happened to be with her. That was when she decided I wasn’t playing games and started working to correct the issues.
About a week later I stopped her on an unrelated traffic violation. The moment I walked up to the car she was eager to show me how she’d been working to fix the problems and begging me to give her a chance to get her licensed fixed. She’d been communicating with the authority who issued the permit, she just needed more time to get a copy of it so she could legally drive again.
Because of the progress, I was right proud of her. She’d taken the “holy spanking” and started getting her life on track again. The second time I’d stopped her, she had tried to tell me the same sob story about a recent divorce and struggling on her own as she’d told a month prior. I quickly saw through this and called her on it. Now this third time I thought I was getting somewhere, until the court informed me she was more than a month behind on both sets of tickets and they were issuing a warrant for her arrest. It wasn’t until I stopped her “husband” that a clearer picture emerged.
When I stopped her “man”, he had no driver license, in fact he’d never had one. His vehicle was unregistered and he had received numerous citations for driving without a license and with that registration expired for over a year. I wrote him a few tickets, and if he hasn’t put in the effort to solve these problems, I can assure you I’ll have a few more for him. The thing is, his woman’s behavior was a direct reflection of him.
He didn’t have things together, didn’t care about maintaining a good license or proper vehicle registration, so neither did she. This woman was following her coverings example, however poor it was. He wasn’t the kind of man I’d permit to marry one of my daughters for the simple fact that he didn’t actually provide his woman protection. Had he cared about her more, I probably wouldn’t have stopped her in the first place for speeding. IF I did, her license would have been good and valid, or at a minimum it would have been corrected before the next time she encountered me a month later.
The thing about the Law Order of The Most High is it doesn’t change. Our society and expectations and all change with the Texas weather, but his law doesn’t change. He ordained patriarchy, at times the world is doing a better job of living it out than his people are. Ouch! That one really stung, like really stung…
But the fact of it all is. Both these women were acting under the direction of wicked rulers, for that’s what the man is. He is the ruler of his home. Because one ruler was evil and the other a fool, those under their charge, trying as hard as they could ended up acting like fools.
There are godly women who for whatever reason are married to a pagan man or an infidel. Those women suffer the consequences of The Most High trying to reach their husband until he’s cut off, it’s because they are under his covering. It doesn’t mean they aren’t saved, or that our father isn’t faithful to them. It does however show us that they will suffer the pain of the consequences visited on their man by the Father as he tries to bring him to repentance.
As a man, if the father is trying to get your attention. LISTEN! Do not make him bring suffering and pain against you that affects those you love. Do not put your woman and children in a position to feel the pain of consequences intended to direct you. As a woman, until the father frees you from a wicked covering, submit as best you can. Hold the line and don’t walk in blatant sin, but follow and allow the father to work on his heart. For everyone… don’t be in a no being zone. Don’t make covenants with those who are opposed to The Most High, that’s setting yourself up for pain and suffering and it’s a house built on sandy lands.